My Philosophy of Fragrance: Why Scent Speaks Louder Than Words

by Naomi Foster

To say I am a perfume enthusiast barely scratches the surface. I have explored everything from high-end classics to the most modest oils, and in doing so, I’ve come to understand fragrance as more than a surface adornment. It is an extension of the self, a subtle articulation of mood, memory, and desire.

Fragrance communicates in ways words cannot. How one smells can reveal intentions, shape perceptions, and convey a presence before any conversation begins. Some days, I reach for scents that are warm, comforting, and indulgent; other days, I seek crispness, lightness, or even an enigmatic complexity.

I am drawn to perfumes that are layered, nuanced, and lingering. They unfold over time, interacting with the body and revealing dimensions of identity that shift as we move through our day. A truly compelling fragrance is not static; it evolves, reflecting the wearer’s subtleties and contradictions.

Perfume becomes a medium of self-expression, an invisible language capable of evoking memory, eliciting emotion, and asserting individuality. Choosing a fragrance is not just about what smells good; rather, it is a deliberate act of curation, a reflection of how we wish to be felt and remembered.

In the series that follows, I will share the fragrances that resonate most deeply with me: scents that are complex, and capable of leaving a lasting impression. Think of this as an introduction to the world of fragrance as I experience it: personal, intentional, and unapologetically indulgent.

Next, I’ll share the scents that truly speak to me, the ones that feel like comfort, indulgence, and a little playful luxury. Think of it as the sweet side of fragrance.

MY TOP 10 SKIN CARE FINDS OF 2025

2025 was my year of learning about my skin. What products work, and what products simply aren’t worth the hype. In a world of oblong-shaped containers and bubble letters, I had to sift through and find products that were effective in the long term. Personally, I damaged my skin barrier terribly in the last few years, and so I was more prone to breakouts, rashes, redness, hyper-pigmentation, and irritation in general, so my goal was to repair my skin barrier and then slowly incorporate the other serums. And I must say, I have come a very long way. Even with the occasional breakout, my skin has shown significant improvement. When searching for products for both my body and face, I aimed to find quality items that were still affordable enough to repurchase. The product listed ranges from $13-$30

10. Byoma Milky Toner

On my journey to healing my skin barrier, I tried a few milky toner variants, from Laneige to Thayers to Pixi, and this is hands down the best toner I have ever applied to my skin. This toner is lightweight but packs a heavy punch, as it’s filled with barrier-repairing ceramides. I’m someone who was always at the dermatologist, and my face always felt tight after every wash. After a week of consistent use (morning and night), I noticed a significant improvement in the texture and tone of my skin. The toner works exactly as intended, hydrating the skin, and it penetrates deeply enough that the glow lasts all day. This is a skin-first product, and it can be used in your makeup prep routine, but I wouldn’t bank on it to show through 6 steps of full coverage. This toner is ideal for individuals new to skin care, and especially beneficial for those with dehydrated, dull skin. one bottle from June 2025 lasted me until January 2026, you get 5 ounces in the $15 bottle and it is still not quite done. 10/10!

9. Kiehl’s Truly Targeted Acne-Clearing Pimple Patch

A pimple patch hates to see me coming. Before discovering this product, I would go through two boxes of the Good Molecules Patch per month, which is equivalent to 120 pimple patches. Aside from being incredibly wasteful, the patches are ineffective for all types of acne. If you have a deep cystic pimple, a little patch can’t help you until it becomes a whitehead, and then you risk trapping the bacteria inside, which can make it three times worse. I needed a fast-acting spot treatment, and I found one! These Kiehl’s drops are essentially just a liquid pimple patch. It goes on clear and dries tacky after about 6 hours; the spot should be reduced in size and ultimately dried out. Because it’s clear that you can use it day or night, the shine will be more noticeable the larger the spot is, but it beats walking around with a full pimple patch. One last disclaimer: this product is very strong, so apply it no more than twice a day, morning and night, to avoid burning or overdrying the area. For $30 you get a lot of product, because one drop goes a long way. 9/10!

8. Weleda Skin Food Ultra Rich Moisturizer Cream

Weleda Skin Food Ultra-Rich Moisturizer Cream - 2.5 fl oz, 1 of 21

This product is unavoidable. I finally got tired of seeing it and purchased the moisturizer during a Whole Foods Sale. I rushed home to try it and was not disappointed. The first thing I noticed was the scent, it’s like a luxurious vegetable aroma, or like a hotel hand soap. I was worried about using a product with fragrance, but it does disappear after a few minutes, and apparently, the ingredients that give it that initial smell. Next is the texture. This is an incredibly rich, thick cream-like hand cream. if you’re soemone with acne prone ski or your pores clog easily I woud be mindful of how much you apply at once and maybe consider the Weleda Skin Food Ligh ( i will def switch in spring/summer). When I bought it, I didn’t know that there were other variations. All of that to say, I do love this product, especially for the fall and winter time. It’s great for daily use and aids in barrier protection repair. Also, this pairs well with the byoma toner. 9/10!

7. Inkey List Oat Cleanser

The INKEY List - Oat Makeup Removing Cleansing Balm 5 oz/ 150 mL The INKEY List Oat Makeup Removing Cleansing Balm Clean at Sephora

An absolute staple in my night routine! This product has no irritants or fragrance, so I can use it with eye makeup without worry. My favorite aspect of this product is its effectiveness. It’s one step, and you’re done. I dislike how micellar water requires a cotton pad or another item to actually apply the product. With the Inkey Oat, I just work the product into my face using my hands, and it breaks down EVERYTHING, including SPF, waterproof tubing mascara, any lip combo, brow gel, all of it gone after 30 seconds, and then you can rinse it right off and follow up with a regular face wash. On a no makeup day, I will still use it, and it does a good job of removing the gunk from the pores. For $13, I get 5 ounces, which can last me for about 3-4 months each time. Absolutely worth it. 10/10!

6. La Roche-Posay Anthelios Clear Skin Dry Touch Sunscreen SPF 60

La Roche Posay Anthelios Clear Skin Dry Touch Face Sunscreen for Acne Prone Skin - SPF 60, 1 of 13

In addition to healing the skin barrier, I also wanted to work on my hyperpigmentation. Any skin specialist or dermatologist will tell you you need some kind of SPF daily in order to achieve either one of those things. Prior to finding this, I hated SPF, and it was definitely my least favorite step. This SPF is light enough that you don’t feel it, and there is absolutely no white cast. I apply it right after my moisturizer, and that way I keep the glowy look and still get the protection I need. I will say that the La Roche-Posay Anthelios Mineral One LSF 50+ is my all-time favorite, but I wanted to try a cheaper alternative still within this brand, and I am satisfied with this as a substitute. This SPF is $21, and it lasted me an entire year, and that’s with daily use on face, neck, and chest. 10/10!

5. Tend Skin

Tend Skin Solution - 4 fl oz, 1 of 7

If you’re someone who waxes or shaves regularly, this should be part of your routine. I discovered this product 5 or 6 years ago, but I wasn’t consistent with use, so I would consider this a rediscovery. This eliminated ingrown hairs and any sort of texture from those areas. I used to use it only after my initial hair removal, every 4 weeks. Now, I’ve upped it to every day in summer or every other day in winter, and it allows me to maintain smooth results. It does have a very alcoholic scent, but that goes away after about an hour. It costs $20 for 4oz, and the product lasts approximately 2.5 months with daily use. Because this product works so well, I would say the price is worth it, and using it 3 nights a week will make it last longer, if you could get the 8oz. 10/10!

4. Cetaphil SA Face Wash

Cetaphil Exfoliating Salicylic Acid Cleanser - 8 fl oz

HOLY GRAIL FOR ACNE! Anything with salicylic acid is bound to treat acne in some way. This wash is strong and effective, results within a few days Even though the packaging says sensitive skin I would be mindful about how often you use it. Twice a day, at most, but I think one application is enough, so you don’t risk over-drying the skin. I think this is the perfect everyday wash to keep acne at bay. And if you do have a breakout, it helps reduce redness and irritation. That said, I took a month off from using this product after using it for 5 months straight, and my skin didn’t appreciate that. I found that my acne was a bit harder to manage, and my skin has grown accustomed to it. Now I use a hydrating cleanser in the morning and salicylic acid at night, and my skin handles it well. 9/10!

3. Belif The True Cream Aqua Bomb

I came across this wash in TJ Maxx, looking for something completely separate, and now this is a non-negotiable part of my makeup prep. This water cream is the perfect gel moisturizer. You get the dewy look without the heavy. This reminds me of the ELF Hydrogrip primer, but with nutrients for your skin. This comes after toner and before primer, allowing each product to adhere to the skin. It uses this in place of the Weleda if I’m going for a more full-coverage look. One more thing to add I would not get this too close to the eye if you are sensitive in the area but everywhere else it works as intended. 8/10!

2. The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7%

The Ordinary - Glycolic Acid 7% Exfoliating and Brightening Daily Toner 8 oz/ 240 mL The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7% Exfoliating and Brightening Daily Toner

This toner started popping up on my fyp a few months ago with claims that it helped reduce hyperpigmentation and also stopped body odor. My main concern was hyperpigmentation, and I can say it helps with brightening and improving texture. As someone who already has active ingredients in my routine, I found that this was too much for my face, but I wasn’t about to throw away a product, so I started using it on my chest and under my arms, and I am impressed. Instead of my Dove spray deodorant after a night shower, I pat this into my underarms, and there is no smell. However, it does make the areas feel a bit tacky, but because I use it before bed, it doesn’t bother me too much. As for the lighting, it takes time, but after about a month and a half of consistent use, the difference is very noticeable. 8/10!

  1. The Perfector Salicylic Acid Body Wash
Naturium The Perfector Salicylic Acid Skin Smoothing Body Wash - 16.9 fl oz, 1 of 17

Just buy it. I cleanse first with a regular sensitive skin body wash and then follow up with this a few times a week, and it has made a world of difference. I don’t struggle with body acne too much, but the occasional chest pimple or back pimple can occur. This product can be a bit pricey if you intend to use it every day. For me, I would go through two a month, and that’s not happening. So I use this product selectively when I know something could cause a breakout, like after a wax, wash day, sweating, or exposure to more germs than normal. I typically let it sit on my skin for 2 minutes post-lather to make sure it all gets in, and I have a lot of success with this wash. 10/10!

to have and to hold

we can go together

harbor my hollowed heart 

take my hand and keep it 

through the moments of our 

misfortune 

can our love carry

the cause?

privy to your pain–

i tread carefully 

wading in your sorrows

i will carry you to shore

for better or for worse 

and with every stitch

i will mend your aching soul 

hemming your heart 

until it is whole once more – 

would you do the same for me

or is that selfish to say?

for doubt is a powerful potion –  

heavy is the mind that thinks only of tomorrow 

weighted are the thoughts tied only to the storm 

yet we exist in the eye 

in tandem is this blessed union

let the winds bellow

let our reflections hold true

and seal our fate in solidarity

we can go together.

You Feel Like a Body More Than a Being 

beneath every comforter you own,

we lie entangled in a fragile embrace,

yet only your silhouette emerges 

a ghost of the warmth i once knew.

i savor the dying embers of your heat,

tracing every delicate curve

with trembling fingertips,

as if each contour were etched from my own longing.

our eyes do not meet,

and our lips do not touch.

i call out your name

and silence screams back,

a playful echo of our unspoken grief.

to crave you

so completely, so painfully

in this fleeting moment

is my undoing.

to want you as you are

in this moment

is truly despicable on my part.

how can you provide

what you lack?

how can you ever offer

what remains so heartbreakingly absent?

as we lie here, stiff and unwilling,

i am reminded of the connection 

between beast and machine.

this is not the man i know.

sure you are still mine,

for a brief moment

we are strangers

and that excites me.

for what it’s worth

the day that i met you 

i shed my skin

and all that was beneath it 

taking a page from the cobra’s book

slithering away from certainty

forgoing comfort

i hoisted myself into your world 

before i got the chance to understand my own 

it was not enough to be with you

i wanted to live under your flesh 

to dangle in the back of your throat 

to stir in your veins

i was ready to die before i had even lived

content with being 

a blip in your timeline

a speck in your universe 

a mere lipstick stain on your pillow

i abandoned my reality

because i was so engrossed in yours 

fixated on a love not meant to least

hung up on temporary sensations

i lost myself 

to you

once more with feeling

catch my eye 

hold my stare

flickers of flirt  

fold between our laughter

darling won’t you 

open up the honeysuckle gates

and entangle your limbs

with mine 

trace the crevice 

in the small of my back

wind up layered raven locks 

throbbing follicles twinge

at your every nudge

we pulse and pry

tug and drag

scrape and strain

until our lips are numb 

wading in the dampness 

our proof of passion

beads of crystalline liquid 

polka dot your figure 

flames engulf the flicker

swallowing my pride 

diminishing the dawn 

of a budding romance

kiss me again

once more with feeling 

kiss me again 

slow your rhythm

try for me 

please 

loosen your jaw

thaw your frozen feelings

our lips can pray as hands do

hold me close 

and we can pretend 

that we’re still in love

Ode to My Bed

I can feel myself sinking deeper 

into your memory-foam breasts,  

swallowed whole

by polyester waves,

ripple by ripple.

You will chew me up 

and spit me out.

But I will come back time and time again

unscathed by your  

cold shoulder.

It’s only temporary,

as these things usually are.

Let me back into your good graces. 

I will prove 

that I am worthy 

of your affection.

Embrace me with your quilted appendages. 

Keep me in your womb.

Give me shelter

Give me security.

Give me love

or something like it.

Smother me. 

Make me crave the outside 

but do not set me free.

I do not belong out there 

with the soiled masses 

desperate 

for an unattainable closeness. 

They want what we have.

Do not shut me out, 

forcing me to inhale 

the pungent stench of sensibility.

It’s all death and taxes.

A wrinkled reality. 

Let me vacate in the void.

Let me stay.

In here where I am protected.

In here where I am wanted. 

In here where I am buried

but still very 

much alive.

Eradication

If I could, I would

remove every inch of skin 

you’ve ever touched, 

peel off my epidermis layer,

strip by strip, 

and bathe myself in bleach.

Even then,

I would not be clean.

Perhaps I should, 

lay on burning coals 

until my flesh 

liquifies,

until I am 

nothing 

but a pile of molten sludge.

Or

I could wade

into The Nile 

with weights strapped 

to my ankles

and let the crocodiles

flay the meat off my bones.  

If I could, I would 

unhear every lie you’ve ever told,

pierce my eardrums 

with a P.F. Chang’s chopstick.

The deceit runs red.

I’ll make myself forget every memory 

that we made together

by slamming my head against the wall,

cracking my skull 

into a thousand blackouts.

I could just sniff carbon monoxide,

the silent killer,

urging my throat to swell

and my lungs to burst, 

expelling your stale saliva 

from my being. 

If that doesn’t work,

I’ll chug windex out of a martini glass.

Can’t be much worse than Grey Goose

and an olive. 

You’ll love this one.

Picture me hanging from the ceiling fan, 

twirling around and around.  

A maroon stained neck,

rubbing against a twisted rope,

just like one of those dainty ballerinas,

think Swan Lake.

Watch 

the feathers fall.

A saffron glow emerges in the distance, 

breathing comes to a slow, 

and I have erased you completely.

How to Heal a Hymen

Press 

the rounds of your knees together. 

Get low 

to the ground.

Allow your breasts

to graze the floor.

Brush your lips against the carpet. 

Open your palms 

and repent. 

Drape yourself 

in thick, weighty fabrics.

Pray away 

the tumultuous act 

committed in vain. 

It can be undone. 

It can be 

undone.

Mary did it, so can you.

Go down

to the reservoir. 

Submerge your tainted flesh.

Then, watch closely as stolen kisses dribble

off your spine.

Wash away the crimson stains

and cry out for redemption.

Flutter 

your lashes. 

Elevate the apples of your cheeks and bite down.

Laugh (if necessary),

Touch (when appropriate), 

but do not give in to temptation.

Your time

would be better spent

drooling over salmon dishes 

and cooing at caviar, 

that you won’t swallow.

Allowing your eyes to wander 

when the bill arrives.

Make him pay. 

Let finance

be your first base

and coition be your last.

Afterall, a financial transaction 

is as good an indicator 

of love as any.

Why you want to heal in the first place?

Bask in your shame, girl.

Expose your every limb.

Put that pretty organ on display. 

Hear them whisper 

 Tight. Soft. Wet

My dear, you are nothing more 

than an adjective. 

Unless, of course, 

countless nights of combing 

through bed chambers 

have made you weary.

Or worse, 

your abdomen has begun to ache, 

pained by the parasite

that you host. 

If nothing else,

ingest the small pale pills.

One here.

One at home.

That should kill it, 

no more physical evidence of your sin  

and so

it is done.

You are healed.